Episode 3: Culture & Customs - Effects Of Patriarchy

Exploring the ways that Indigenous cultures encourage the oppression and mistreatment of women and queer people.

Episode 3 highlights how African customs and culture encourage the oppression of women and queer people. We discuss the Tswana translation of the term Male privilege and the role it plays in customary beliefs. Author of A man who is not a man, Thando Mgqolozana, exposes some of the unhealthy and dangerous practices within male initiation schools. Ntsako unpacks lobola from a heteronormative and same-sex marriage practice, while Dr Nokuzola Mndende shares her contentious views on the evolution of lobola from a cultural and womanist perspective.


  • Table Guest: Thando Mgqolozana - Author of A Man Who Is Not A Man
  • Elders Corner Guest: Dr Nokuzola Mndende - Director of Icamagu Heritage Centre
  • Allies Corner Guest: Professor Kopano Ratele - Psychologist

Language Term

Male privilege: “Tlotlo e e faphegileng e fiwang banna, fela ka gore ke ba bong boo


  • The difference between a broken community and a thriving one is the presence of women who are valued. - Michelle Obama
  • If you wish to know how civilized a culture is, look at how they treat its women. Bacha Khan
  • The overwhelming majority of women accept the patriarchy and protect it. Traditionally, the violated wife offloads her aggression onto the daughter-in-law. Men dominate women through the agency of women themselves. - Winnie Mandela
  • We need to live in a culture that values and respects and looks up to and idolizes women as much as men -  Emma Watson

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